Usually when I hear “It’s not fair” the voice is one of my kids and it follows a timeout or other such inconvenience to being a kid. We tell them that life isn’t fair all the time. Sometimes things go your way and sometimes they don’t.
We also point out that they have a lot more than other kids in the world and that isn’t fair but it works out in their favor. So we all have to take the good with the bad and appreciate what we have.
Sounds like a good lesson to learn. It is true, things don’t always go the way you want or wish or even hope with all your heart.
Now I am the one who wants to scream that “It’s not fair”. I want to yell loud how angry I am that sometimes things go so terribly badly that it goes beyond fairness. It just isn’t RIGHT.
It isn’t right for a child to lose their parent or for a parent to lose their child. For a wife to lose her husband or a husband to lose his wife.
It isn’t right that these kinds of bad things happen. Things you have no control over and they rip apart your world.
It isn’t right that those left behind have to find unimaginable strength to lift themselves up and go on living. Go on without part of themselves.
I’m angry this week at the unfairness I’ve seen happening to those I care about. The WRONG.
My heart aches to make things RIGHT again. But I can’t. No one can.
We can only provide support and love. It doesn’t seem like enough.
Life goes on, fair or not.
Oh girl. It’s so not fair. It makes me angry.
I’m sending your family prayers this week. xo
Twitter: acctodenise
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Thank you Shell
You’re so right, Denise. Life just isn’t fair. Remember when we were young and thought our world would be perfect because we would make it so? At least, I did. What a rude awakening when we find out it’s not so. But life truly does go on and you either find a way to go with it or get left in the mud. (The mud where your tears dropped on the ground.)
Twitter: acctodenise
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I am in awe of how my family members closest to the one we lost are moving forward. It is so hard and they are being so strong.
Twitter: recanddec
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You are right Denise, it’s not fair! Somethings we will never understand. May God bless your family!
Twitter: acctodenise
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Thanks Wanda.
Twitter: OneLoCoMommy
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It’s so not fair.
Twitter: acctodenise
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Awful, awful, awful.
Totally and completely unfair. I’m angry with you, I am shouting out loud on your behalf. So sorry. Please imagine my arms around you in a giant hug and wet cheeked with tears for you. You and your family are in my prayers.
Twitter: acctodenise
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Thank you Nicole.
Twitter: embracespectrum
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Absolutely right…it’s really not fair! Your family is in my thoughts.
Twitter: acctodenise
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Thank you Teresa.
Twitter: nataliehoage
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I know. I know, I know, I know exactly how you feel because I’ve felt that way many times. Life sucks sometimes, and it hurts like hell when you feel it directly. Sending you and your family all kinds of positive, loving vibes.
Twitter: acctodenise
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Thank you Natalie.
Oh Denise, I’m so sorry because you are absolutely right – it’s not fair and in no way can it be fair. I know that there isn’t much that one can say except that I’m thinking of you and your family.
Twitter: acctodenise
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Thank you Christine.
Twitter: notaperfectmama
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I can totally understand how you feel….we’ve been going through a bit of this wanting to scream and jump up and down and shout of the unfairness….
prayers will be sent….
Twitter: acctodenise
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Thank you Holly.
Life totally blows sometimes!! Hugs to you all!
Twitter: acctodenise
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Appreciate the hugs.
Twitter: AlisonSWLee
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It is absolutely not fair. And I’m so sorry your family is going through this now. Sending you love and light.
Twitter: acctodenise
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Thank you Alison.
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Thank you Robin.
Life is not fair and I’m so sorry that those you care about are going through this. Sending prayers your way.
Twitter: acctodenise
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Thank you Julia.
Twitter: fromtracie
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It is absolutely NOT fair.
I’m praying for you and your family.
Twitter: acctodenise
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Thank you Tracie.
I’m really sorry. No, it isn’t fair at all and it hurts like crazy.
Twitter: acctodenise
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Thanks Rach.
Twitter: Newmommabeckers
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You’re right – it isn’t fair. I will keep you and your loved ones in my prayers.
Twitter: acctodenise
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Thank you Rebecca.
This is my first visit, so I don’t know your back story, but my heart goes out to you. Sending prayers to you and yours.
Twitter: acctodenise
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My family appreciates it.
Visiting from PYHO and not sure of all that has happened but wanted to let you know that I am saying a prayer for you today. I’ve been wanting to scream the “It’s not fair” scream for awhile. I poked around a little and almost spit out my tea at your “Am I wearing panst?” post. I have done the same thing!
Twitter: acctodenise
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Thanks AnnMarie.
Glad I am not the only one who wonders if she is wearing pants
Twitter: fiercedivablog
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Life is sooooo not fair! I have had a wild week with unfairness – but I must say – the love and support may not seem like much – but they count more than I can tell you! xo
Twitter: acctodenise
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The support my family has received is so wonderful. My husband’s cousin had a wonderful circle of loving friends and family.
Twitter: KristenPGIP
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It’s not only not fair….IT SUCKS!! That hole in your heart that can never fully repair. That longing. That wondering. It all sucks!!
My heart goes out to you and your family.
Twitter: acctodenise
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Thanks Kristen. The funeral was sad but also a wonderful celebration of life. The family has had so much support.
So true! Sending prayers!
Twitter: acctodenise
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Thanks Dierdre
Twitter: KimberlyAMuro
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It is absolutely not fair. My heart breaks for you and your family. Sending you lots of love and hugs through it all.
Twitter: acctodenise
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Thank you Kimberly.
Right there with you on the unfairness deal. So sorry your family is dealing with this and sending prayers your way!
Twitter: acctodenise
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Thank you Paula
Twitter: themommymess
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It’s not fair. I’m so sorry!
Twitter: acctodenise
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Thanks Adrienne